By Jody Hedlund, @JodyHedlund
Today on my blog I'm celebrating a very important anniversary with a FIVE BOOK giveaway!
Tomorrow is the wedding anniversary of John and Abigail Adams, the second president of the United States and his first lady! This famous couple was married on October 25, 1764.
As many of you know, my recent release, Rebellious Heart, is inspired by this couple's early courtship, including how they met, developed a friendship, and then overcame obstacles to finally fall in love.
In her last letter to John before their wedding, Abigail asked him to take all her belongings in a cart to her new home in Braintree: “And then Sir, if you please, you may take me.”
Isn't that sweet?
One thing I really love about their relationship is that it was based on a solid foundation of friendship. John and Abigail Adams are known for their friendship and the many letters they wrote to each over the years. In fact, at one point Abigail addresses John as "my dearest friend."
In appreciation of their friendship, she said this in one of her early letters to John: "A friend is worth all hazards we can run. Poor is the friendless master of a world; a world in purchase for a friend is gain. Who, that has once been favored with your friendship can be satisfied with the least diminution of it? Not those who value it according to its worth."
While romance is important in any relationship, I believe our culture puts an over-emphasis on the romantic feelings in a relationship to the detriment of forming a life-long friendship. Many young people "fall in love" but neglect to develop a solid friendship with their partner first.
The Adams story is a great example of how couples can make a point of being friends, finding areas in common, having the same interests, and enjoying spending time together as friends in addition to (or perhaps even before) the romance.
As my older children enter high school, they're garnering interest from the opposite sex. Recently one of my daughters had a young man ask her to "be his girlfriend." While she admired this boy, she wanted to develop their friendship first. She told me she thought she was too young to get into a dating relationship and wanted to focus on just being friends.
I was really glad she came to me and that we could talk about some ways she might share her feelings to the young man without hurting his pride. Even more than that, I was glad that she wanted to work on being FRIENDS first. She's establishing healthy boundaries that will carry over into the future.
All that to say, I think our modern culture has a LOT to learn from couples like John and Abigail Adams, from their courtship and marriage! Their relationship is one worth emulating AND celebrating.
So in celebration, I'm GIVING AWAY FIVE BOOKS!!! Four of the books are recent releases from fellow Bethany House authors, dear friends of mine that I've grown to appreciate and admire:
The Miner's Lady by Tracie Peterson,
Into the Whirlwind by Elizabeth Camden
A Home for My Heart by Anne Mateer
Stranded by Dani Pettry
The fifth book is ONE choice from my published books, including my new release based on John and Abigail Adams, Rebellious Heart.
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What do YOU think of modern dating compared to the courtship of old? What do you wish was different about dating practices today?
WINNER OF GIVEAWAY: Claudia Castenir!!