However, we risk the danger of hiding behind our computers and sharing selectively, perhaps only telling what makes us look best in the eyes of our cyber friends. It takes courage to be real, even in cyberspace.
Today I'd like to bring the discussion a little closer to home. What about those flesh and blood friends? Does such a thing even exist anymore?!
Of course, I'm kidding! I'm sure we all have plenty of real life friends (as opposed to cyber friends). We can't hide as easily behind masks with real life friends; they can usually see us for who we really are. But what I want to know is: how well do those friends support your writing?
I'm blessed with a wonderful group of like-minded friends. We're all in approximately the same stage of parenting, we share our struggles and joys, and our children love playing together. They're the kind of friends who would take the shirt off their back for me if I needed it. I'm sure you have those kind of friends too.
However. . .many of these friends just don't "get" my writing. Here are a few of the kinds of responses I've received when I've shared writing news with various friends:
- "Writing a book? That's nice. . . Um, so how's the weather?"
- "That's great you're writing a book. I'm thinking of writing one too. I have this really neat idea."
- "How exciting! Is your book in the bookstore yet? I'll be the first to buy it!"
Maybe you've had similar responses that range from complete disinterest to total misunderstanding of how long the process takes, or that friend who talks about the best seller he is going to write.
The bottom line is that it takes a writer to understand one. No one but another writer understands just how hard this writing journey is, how many hours we labor, how many craft books we've studied, how many edits we've made, how many years we've plodded forward without any accolades.
What kinds of responses have you gotten from your real-life, non-writing friends? What response is hardest for you to take? Disinterest? Misunderstanding? Ignorance?
Let's commiserate together! Share what bothers you most because we will understand!